tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post372284339989340117..comments2024-03-25T03:30:30.197-07:00Comments on An Old-Fashioned World: Being politeRuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12110133467260748245noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-11953445952424992692015-07-31T12:22:14.016-07:002015-07-31T12:22:14.016-07:00Thank you so much, Belinda! It seems I have that c...Thank you so much, Belinda! It seems I have that conversation all the time myself ;)<br /><br />Nice to "meet" you.<br /><br />rueRuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12110133467260748245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-82358042270158796742015-07-31T11:07:07.706-07:002015-07-31T11:07:07.706-07:00I discovered your blog today. First let me say yo...I discovered your blog today. First let me say your blog is lovely! And your home is just as lovely. Thank you so much for this post. I have this conversation almost daily it seems with my husband. I just don't understand.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06748413616159640037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-55573384943299436712015-07-01T20:56:59.773-07:002015-07-01T20:56:59.773-07:00I don't read as many blogs as I would like to ...I don't read as many blogs as I would like to nor do I read every post simply because I don't have time. I did however read an unkind and judgemental comment and your reply a short time ago on another blog. Words can destroy heart and soul or they can be medicine. I do hope that what I read was a very rare exception and not the new norm. A very timely post Rue and well put.Ronda@islandmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10717144102801480011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-90376793133454819972015-06-30T13:42:01.482-07:002015-06-30T13:42:01.482-07:00I don't get it either. Love that quote :)I don't get it either. Love that quote :)Ruehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12110133467260748245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-53987703341393371402015-06-30T13:16:43.819-07:002015-06-30T13:16:43.819-07:00Thank you! :)
xoThank you! :)<br /><br />xoRuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12110133467260748245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-79545660680590841012015-06-30T13:13:10.505-07:002015-06-30T13:13:10.505-07:00Yes, it has.
xoYes, it has.<br /><br />xoRuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12110133467260748245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-34185707385384988452015-06-30T09:08:27.737-07:002015-06-30T09:08:27.737-07:00I agree about manners and some people--if you can&...I agree about manners and some people--if you can't say something nice then just don't say it. I tell my daughter this all the time-teen! I do like your Twain quote! DD's Cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732910249879877185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-53681663944685345162015-06-29T23:22:34.549-07:002015-06-29T23:22:34.549-07:00Well put Rue!Well put Rue!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-32592227623059958022015-06-29T13:58:38.775-07:002015-06-29T13:58:38.775-07:00I don't understand why anyone would leave a ru...I don't understand why anyone would leave a rude comment.....<br />Maybe it all boils down to a quote I once heard....<br />"God gave us two ears and one mouth" seems to me that He was telling us to hear more and speak less :^)<br />Thank you for the reminder...there are days when we all need that help.<br />Blessings,<br />JJaybirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06140775009986030091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-2694422078943521132015-06-29T07:01:41.570-07:002015-06-29T07:01:41.570-07:00I like the phrase "Always be kinder than you ...I like the phrase "Always be kinder than you feel". Helps me remember to be diplomatic. But leaving rude comments on a blog? I don't get that at all! Why do people get their jollies from that? Boggles the mind.Rustown Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12970069327566577570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-9175029221253424932015-06-28T14:12:52.285-07:002015-06-28T14:12:52.285-07:00I hate that people feel like it's ok to tear p...I hate that people feel like it's ok to tear people down on the internet. It's not ok. If you wouldn't say it in real life, to the person's face, then should you even be saying it at all? Mean comments and emails are one of the most hurtful things about being a blogger. I feel like we are all reaching out to connect, and to be rejected in such a fashion feels like being slapped in the face. I just have to remind myself you can't please everyone. And that other people's opinions don't matter. If you are like me, easier said than done :)Jessica Jarrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088243667002486509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-24736591102909174952015-06-27T13:43:36.175-07:002015-06-27T13:43:36.175-07:00Rue, you are just the right spokeswoman for this s...Rue, you are just the right spokeswoman for this subject and you wrote the post in a forthright and yet friendly manner. <br /><br />I remember a woman I used to know who prided herself on "speaking her mind". One day our very sweet and gentle friend, who happened to be our pastor's wife, quietly said, in response to that belief, "Did you ever think that other people might not want to hear you speak your mind?" It made her think, it had really never dawned on her before and it changed her. Dewenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330797553600987145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-75667216269296431792015-06-27T07:27:30.853-07:002015-06-27T07:27:30.853-07:00Unfortunately, "we're not in Kansas anymo...Unfortunately, "we're not in Kansas anymore". I'm showing my age when I say that society has changed for the worse and I don't know how we change it. But, a post like yours is definitely a step in the right direction.Art and Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09070124859845536964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-6791095282707212012015-06-26T20:49:18.519-07:002015-06-26T20:49:18.519-07:00Back in the late 90's I was part of a very pop...Back in the late 90's I was part of a very popular discussion board sponsored by BHG. In the beginning they allowed anonymous comments and boy, did it get dicey sometimes! But you know what? When BHG stopped allowing anonymity, everything changed to the point the board was shut down. Participation decreased, and overall things just got too predictable and boring. I guess when we see nastiness, it's like looking at a car accident...we wish it hadn't happened but we can't help but look. <br /><br />I haven't experienced any nasty comments on my blog, and I really haven't seen any on anyone else's either, but I have noticed FB is a bit different. For some reason, people seem to say what they really mean on that platform, and it develops into almost a mob mentality. <br /><br />Have you heard of 'getoffmyinternets'? Apparently it's been around for years but I just learned of it recently. Want to see rude?? Check it out. Doreen@foxdenrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09418636999038800443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-90221312795256799952015-06-26T18:28:26.575-07:002015-06-26T18:28:26.575-07:00Great post Rue! Especially the Mark Twain quote. ...Great post Rue! Especially the Mark Twain quote. I suppose the rise in rude and uncivil behavior can be attributed to a bunch of things-- the internet/social media (it's so much easier to be nasty and mean if you aren't face to face with someone); the crazy-fast pace and competitive nature of modern life and the pressure it puts on people; endless examples of rude, obnoxious behavior in the media, TV; and movies; and just plain bad upbringing. I've always felt that one should 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you' or however that saying goes.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05885834933978634106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-54046745987706471112015-06-26T06:32:53.409-07:002015-06-26T06:32:53.409-07:00Hi, Rue, you are absolutely right. Sometimes I rea...Hi, Rue, you are absolutely right. Sometimes I read a blog post and totally disagree with the message, but 99 times out of 100 I just move along. When I do comment it's with the intent of disagreeing without being disagreeable. Perhaps some of this vitriol on the internet comes from those whose parents didn't model or teach them to be polite, but you'd think they would figure it out at some point as adults if others were rude to them. And you can be diplomatic without being dishonest! My dear late MIL asked my opinion of what (to me) was a hideous permanent. I give credit to the Holy Spirit for the inspiration to say "Oh you must really love how easy and cool it is now summer's here!" which satisfied her completely. The scrupulously accurate response of "It's the ugliest hairstyle ever! Are you going to sue the salon?" probably wouldn't have been as welcome. Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10891846684740775290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-17312289230603402132015-06-25T18:33:46.396-07:002015-06-25T18:33:46.396-07:00Rue, I've never seen comments that were that h...Rue, I've never seen comments that were that hurtful any time in blogland, but I don't have facebook, so I wouldn't know about that. This is something that we all need to hear, thanks Rue. I love your hardcover books; I've always preferred them over the others.<br /><br />Have a good Friday, my dear.<br /><br />~SheriRed Rose Alleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685747099912989862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-71446957623482399952015-06-25T17:56:21.843-07:002015-06-25T17:56:21.843-07:00Couldn't agree with you more...and you said it...Couldn't agree with you more...and you said it so well! ;)Donnamaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978668649808777994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-4678551481450118202015-06-25T17:26:39.555-07:002015-06-25T17:26:39.555-07:00Hi Rue, Great post and I so agree with you. Nice, ...Hi Rue, Great post and I so agree with you. Nice, kind and manners still matter, now more then ever. As you might remember, from way back when, I've been blogging for 8+ years. A lot has changed since the beginning. I left and came back too. Missed everyone and the inspiration here. In all my years however I had one very unkind person write some awful remarks in an email. I choose to ignore them and consider they had a lot of bitterness, anger and problems to lash out at me. Being a strong person, I could overlook the mean spirit, but I felt so sad for the next person in the path that might have to deal with it and not be strong enough to take it. Yes, manners still go along way. I too love the Mark Twain quote. Thanks for sharing this post, your writings and your spirit. So glad you came back to blogging and continue to inspire. <br />Have a nice, kind and mannerly evening. LOL<br />Hugs. CMCelestina Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10021633519525822335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-87878281979647693332015-06-25T16:56:05.348-07:002015-06-25T16:56:05.348-07:00AmenAmenBeverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535622044396271722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-58937544074170894812015-06-25T16:55:57.117-07:002015-06-25T16:55:57.117-07:00AmenAmenBeverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535622044396271722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-40778878879751091512015-06-25T16:24:32.465-07:002015-06-25T16:24:32.465-07:00Rue, I'm sure I know the comment you are refer...Rue, I'm sure I know the comment you are referring to and I was glad to see your reply. Well said.<br />Sandrapugsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11382863960194335627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-7545061005482055562015-06-25T15:25:29.864-07:002015-06-25T15:25:29.864-07:00Our world has gone mad!Our world has gone mad!Cindy Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06876844848421791055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-31770618963135471302015-06-25T14:50:34.344-07:002015-06-25T14:50:34.344-07:00I love the Mark Twain quote and boy, is it true! ...I love the Mark Twain quote and boy, is it true! Nothing is gained from being mean or rude to another person. It just shows how small-minded a person can be. I'm so thankful that I have met so many kind and encouraging bloggers while on this blogging journey! Kindness is so much more appreciated! Hugs!Benitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02712521705008463049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2514949068618443114.post-91017425537286774972015-06-25T13:17:29.678-07:002015-06-25T13:17:29.678-07:00Everything is so instant now and people can hurt y...Everything is so instant now and people can hurt your feelings, best thing is to say nothing at all. http://thankfullga447https://www.blogger.com/profile/09752118265182467689noreply@blogger.com